Quick Synastry Lesson
Trines/Sextiles (blue lines) in a Synastry chart are nice. Except when someone’s Pluto (control) is trining your Moon (emotions). Or your Neptune (delusion) is trining their Sun (embodiment of their being). Or countless other things, that may blind you to the fact that the person you’re with is actually quite sucky, and trying to ruin your life to some extent.
Sun trine Moon, Moon trine Venus (love), Venus trine Mars (passion), now those are nice trines. Your two planets working in harmony.
If you have a planet that is unaspected by the other person, then you probably feel like that part is ignored, and you should work with your partner to make it better. My sister, Jane, and I, in the chart linked (I’m on the inside in blue), both have our moons unaspected. We have a hard time being nice to each other when it counts. It’s really hard to see why certain things make her sad, and vice versa.
Someone’s Mars conjunct one of your angles (AC, MC, IC, DC) can make that person feel like they own you, and you will feel owned. Because Mars is the “me first”planet, it also shows ownership in a Syanstry chart. If your Mars was conjunct my IC, you would think that my family belonged to you, since that also means my MC opposes it, I would try and take it back on a public stage/forum.
If someone has an arrogant quality like Mercury (logical mind) conjunct Pluto, or a sexual quality like Mars square Venus in their natal chart, see how you aspect it to understand where you fit. Neptune Sextile a Mercury/Pluto conjunct could make you believe in that person’s controlling mind, and that’s only bad, when it’s controlling you. If your lover is sexual, but you’re not getting laid, maybe your Saturn (restriction) aspects their Mars.
I learned from a friend that someone’s Saturn conjunct your AC, is when that person restricts your personality so much, that you lose yourself to them. So that might be something to fear.
Easy way to read the aspects between two people:
Square= quick action/anger
Opposition= ambivalence/trying to meet in the middle OR only one has the upper hand.
Trine= perfect harmony, unbeknownst to you
Sextile= nice energy/happiness you are aware of
Conjunction= total faceoff between the planets.
In the example chart:
1) Jane’s (the red) Saturn trines my (blue) Venus. Unbeknownst to us, Jane restricts my loving capabilities. Of course there are a few conjunctions there, but not necessary to point out here, right now.
2) My Jupiter (expansion/luck or where you are blessed) is square Jane’s Sun. My “abilities” get angry with who Jane is, and I take quick action trying to force her to do the things I want. Jane’s Jupiter is also squaring my sun, so the same is true in reverse, and because the Sun is strong, we both revolt against the other’s Jupiter.
3) My Pluto almost conjunct’s her Mercury, which still counts some. I try to make Jane think what I think, and so she feels she must fight me with her words. Another way to see it, is that I strongly activate Jane’s mental awareness when I am around her.
It’s important to note that you can work through certain things, as long as both parties WANT to. I do not subscribe to the theory that some things can’t be fixed. I believe that some people just aren’t willing to put in the effort. Find someone who wants to put the effort in for you.
Anyway, to get a chart like this, go to ASTRO.COM, make sure the pull down menu says Synastry chart.
I won’t be answering any questions relating to your charts, I just wanted to help those who are interested in learning new information for themselves. Knowledge is power:)
ADD ON NOTE: I say in the beginning that trines are NOT always good, so remember that. It’s a lot of that “unbeknownst to you” stuff that can make someone restrict (saturn), or control (pluto) you, without your knowledge. Sometimes you might want it, but sometimes you ;ay dying, and you never did a thing with your life, because your spouse made sure you never did.